Early on a Tuesday morning
“Mrs. Green, can I come in?” A young girl about 15 years old knocks on her school counselor’s door, hoping to talk with her. “Of course,” Mrs. Green replies. “What’s your name?” she asks. “Cristy, but you can just call me Cris.” “Have a seat, Cris,” Mrs. Green says, pointing to one of the empty blue chairs in front of her desk.
“So, what would you like to talk about?” Mrs. Green says sitting up straight with her hands folded neatly on her desk trying to be as approachable as she can. “I don’t know what to do,” Cris says, “my quote-on-quote “friends” don’t want me hanging out with people outside of our little group. They call us the popular kids in school, but the thing is, they don’t care about me and they treat me like they’re just using me to draw attention to themselves and keep me for themselves. Lately, I’ve been hanging out with some new people in a not-so-popular group and they’ve been accepting me and not judging me and I don’t know how to tell my other friends because I know they will freak out. At one point, we had another girl named Izzy in our group and she was in the same situation as me, and after they found out she was hanging out with people other then them, they completely alienated her. I don’t want that to happen to me, we’ve been in our little group since grade 8 and they’re my best friends, but they don’t accept me for my mistakes and I need your advice.”
The room is silent for a while, with Mrs. Green trying to think what to say, or rather what to ask because with the way she advises people, she asks questions help the student get the answer themselves.
“So, let’s talk about Izzy,” Mrs. Green started, “what did she eventually chose to do?”
“She tried to talk to them. She told them that she wants to hang out with her other friends during lunch and after that no one talked to her except for her new friends.”
“If it didn’t affect your reputation, which group of friends would you hang out with more?” Mrs. Green asked.
Cristy took a while to think about it, but in the end, she chose that she would rather be hanging out with people who appreciate her; her new friends.
After a few days, Cristy talked to her friends and told them that she has made some new friends and if they still wanted her, she would love to still hang out with them. They were surprised but thankful that she told them. They realized that they should accept her and be better friends to her. While she still hung out with her “new friends,” she also spent more time with her “old friends”, getting to know them, helping them with their problems, and becoming the best friends they used to be.
Keeping Up With Academics
Afterschool on a Friday
Mrs. Green is walking through the hallway when a grade 8 boy who she’s seen around the school approaches her. “Hi Mrs. Green, can I talk with you?” Connor asked. “Why don’t we head to my office? Or would you prefer to just walk around campus?” Mrs. Green replied. “I could use the exercise,” Connor jokes.
They walked to the garden when Mrs. Green asked, “So Connor, what are you have problems with?” “Honestly, I have too much homework. I can’t keep up with everything and I need some advice. My parents talked with my teachers and they say I’m failing most of my classes. I still want time to hang out with my friends but I really want to catch up with all of my schoolwork. With afterschool activities, having a social life, doing chores and all my homework, I can’t keep up. Considering I’m only in grade 8, I don’t know if most people go through these things, but I am and I want to take initiative and ask for some help.”
“You’re right when you say that most people in grade 8 go through this, but the ones who ask for help get through it a lot faster,” Mrs. Green started. “What classes are you having the most problems with?” “Math, science; chemistry, and social studies.” Connor responded.
“You could have a chat with the teachers for those classes and ask them for a little help with your homework,” Mrs. Green continued. “I have asked for an extension on some of my assignments, and thankfully they said yes,” Connor said happily. “For a lot of the grade 8 students, they show me their class and afterschool schedules and we work out a system for getting homework, chores and whatever else they may have done and organized for the next day. Would you like to do that?” Mrs. Green asked. “Yeah, that sounds great,” Connor responds enthusiastically. “Tonight, I’ll write on a paper my schedules and I’ll come by your office.” “Sounds good,” the counselor said as they walked inside the building.
The next day, Connor went back to the counselor’s office with his piece of paper in hand and they made the schedule on the next page. They talked about what extra things Connor had to do such as chores and hanging out with friends.
A month later, Connor finished all his missing assignments and got very good marks on them. When you are determined to do something, you can achieve it to the best of your abilities.